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Your next chapter doesn't erase the last one.
LoveAgain exists for women who never expected to be here — and who deserve better than "it's time to move on."
Why LoveAgain exists
LoveAgain is for women filling out a dating profile after decades of a committed relationship, or wondering — sometimes with guilt — whether their heart has room for someone new.
Losing a partner is not like a divorce or a breakup. The relationship didn't end by choice, and the love didn't end at all. That's the truth at the center of everything I do: a widow who dates again isn't replacing anyone or "moving on." She is carrying her love with her into a new chapter.
I walk beside her at her own pace — from "I'm not sure I'm ready" to a first coffee date to, when she wants it, a real partnership. Gently, without pressure, and without ever asking her to leave her past at the door.
You will never be rushed, judged, or asked to forget. You will be gently supported, every step.
My story
In May 2022, I lost my husband. For the first nine months, dating wasn't even a thought — just getting through the day was enough.
Then, in February 2023, something shifted. I started thinking about what it might look like to love again. I wasn't ready, not really — I found that out the hard way, in a situationship that left me hurt and confused. But it told me something important: the desire for a real relationship again was still there, and it wasn't going anywhere.
By May 2023, I was dating in earnest. And I quickly realized that I was much less prepared for dating than I wanted to be — not the grief coaching that had helped me rebuild so much of my life, and not any dating advice built for people who'd never lost a spouse.
I was already a member of a coaching program for widows, working through grief and rebuilding. But I noticed something: the women in that community who were ready to think about dating again often held back. They didn't want to take up space meant for those still early in their loss. Dating felt like a topic they had to tuck away, even when it mattered to them.
That gap is why LoveAgain exists.
Here's what I believe
Dating again isn't a betrayal of what you had. You're not taking anything away from your partner, or your relationship, or your grief. You're adding to your story — a new chapter, not a rewritten one.
I'm a certified life coach, and I've focused my practice exclusively on widows navigating this specific, particular kind of re-entry — the one that comes loaded with guilt, rusty instincts, and grief that doesn't just switch off because your heart has room for someone new. It's still early days for LoveAgain, but I've already had the privilege of helping women reframe what dating again means for them, and start building toward the kind of life — and love — they actually want.
My coaching philosophy
Here's what I've come to believe, both from my own experience and from coaching other widows: it's rarely the dating itself that makes it feel so hard. It's the thoughts we bring to it — especially the judgments. A canceled date, a match who goes quiet, the first time someone asks about your partner — the circumstance is neutral. What turns it into shame, or panic, or proof that you're doing this wrong, is the thought running underneath it.
Those thoughts create feelings. The feelings drive what you do next — whether you show up, pull back, or shut the whole thing down. So the work I do isn't about tricks for texting back or advice on where to meet people. It's about noticing the judgments you're carrying into dating and replacing them with understanding — of the situation, and of yourself. That shift, from judgment to understanding, is where the real change happens. Everything else follows from it.
The work I do isn't about tricks for texting back or advice on where to meet. It's about noticing the judgments you're carrying into dating and replacing them with understanding.
How we can work together
The Next Chapter
My flagship coaching program, for widows ready to date with clarity and confidence instead of guilt and guesswork.
Same Time, Next Week
A small group coaching monthly membership for widows who prefer flexibility. Join immediately, leave any time.
If you're not sure where to start, that's what the free call is for.
Love again, in your own time.
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